Serious post tonight - a question aimed at my friends that have supported Troops abroad or *are* themselves military and been stationed abroad.
I try very hard to keep my communications with my adoptee's upbeat and happy - I figure they have enough dramas and worries of their own without me adding to it. But what happens when something goes wrong at home - something life shattering enough that will colour all I do and say?
Am I wrong in keeping it from people that I've developed a connection with - or should I just pretend everything is 5/5 and not add to their burdens? Do I make a brief mention and then gloss over the details - leave it all "stuff is about to happen/has happened but I'm getting there" and go back to the quirky Pax-did-something-foolish tales?
What would you prefer if you were the one I was writing to - week in & week out - for months on end? Would you want to know? Would you be angry & hurt if you found out from another source? Or is it just one thing too many to have to deal with?
I really don't know what to do
[and no - I can't give specifics here - it involves a family member and one of my siblings hasn't yet been advised]